How much is too much?!?

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Do you guys think there are any no-nos as far as what to wear to a wedding? Aside from white or anything that could be construed as a wedding gown?

I'm asking b/c I'm going to a shi-shi wedding at the Boat House in Central Park next week, and the rehearsal dinner the night before is at the Gramercy.

I was all ready to wear an early 60s plain black Suzy Perette wiggle dress that I have (cute cropped bolero also that buttons up the back) that for once fits me like it was made for me.

Then my mother reminded me of that terrifying little phrase on the invitation:

"BLACK TIE OPTIONAL"

So crap. Back to the drawing board. I must wear vintage and I must wear something stupendous... there's a bit of family drama at stake here so I really need to do it up.

I'm thinking about FINALLY breaking out my #1 FAVORITE piece of vintage that I own, that has NEVER been worn out of this house although I try it on every few months or so.

It's a beautiful SHEER backless 20s flapper dress. Black SHEER netting dropped waist with gold embroidery, muted sequins, suspenders, lariats - the WHOLE 9 yards. It's backless to the the butt crack where there's a huge gold metal buckle of sorts. I'm talking, I love this dress so much it lives in a drawer folded by itself b/c I am too afraid to hang it for fear of ripping it, it's so perfect. :drool:

I feel like 10 million dollars in this dress and who knows if I'll ever get the chance to wear it again. After all, I live in Ohio and am not special in any way shape or form.

Do I chance wearing it? Her family is VERY traditional Chinese however I'm not sure that I COULD outshine the bride - Vera Wang PERSONALLY designed her gown as well as those of the wedding party...

What to do?
 
Anessa
I was rooting for the 20's dress until I read you were worried about ripping it. Is it fragile? I also wonder about the "appropriateness" of a backless to the butt dress.:wub: I am also wondering if there are going to be traditional chinese relatives if this might be a too risque. Black tie optional doesn't mean everyone will be in a gown and a really chic black dress glammed up with some glitz and glam at the wrist and earrings might be perfect. What is the fabric of the Suzy Perette ?
-Lorinda
 
I will have my fiancee photograph me in the dress when he gets home later...

It IS fragile - but mostly fragile b/c it is just netting w/ so many heavy "gee-gaws" on it... It is truly in remarkable condition. I promise you will be pleased when you see it - it has kept me up at night thinking about its lovelieness before. :)

Well let's see. While it is completely see-through my plan is to wear it with a black slip under it - basically the "slip" is a strapless black dress that flairs out a bit at the bottom. That way my back will be covered and it looks a lot more respectable. I might try to find something w/ a lower cut back, but not SO low though. While I love showing my back (my original wedding dress was backless to the waist 1930s style - my favorite part of my body) I think the butt crack might be a bit much for even me. :)

Ok into the shower and then a few pictures.
 
Anessa - that dress sounds amazing! I would say go for it, but then I did wear 7 inch clear 'stripper' platforms to a VERY Christian wedding so perhaps I am not the best person to ask. In my defence, though, the rest of my outfit was very demure.


Emma.
 
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