Claire,
I was lucky enough to see the exhibition "The Cult Of Beauty" a few years back at the DeYoung Museum. It was one of my most enthralling experiences at a museum ever. As a big fan of the era's fashion and lifestyles, and a former collector of the fashions and textiles, it actually made me cry from happiness to see so many beautiful items in person. One of the olive velveteen robes/cloaks they had was much like one I owned at the time. And I especially got excited to see Oscar Wilde's velvet "little boy" suit that he wore when he toured America.
I did not know Melissa had left as curator. The museum itself is beautiful and right there high up over SF bay with gorgeous views. Breathtaking!