Nadine, do keep up your positive energies as best as you can right now...we are all sending you ours!
Bad News Never Knocks Politely On The Door...
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Living*Doll*Vintage
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Nadine,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family~
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family~
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bartondoll
Guest
(((Nadine))))
You must be a jumble of thoughts and emotions at the moment. Lean on those around you and be greedy with
the support they offer.
I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way for
a full and speedy recovery.
A site you may want to check out is
http://www.carepages.com/
You can set up your own carepage and it is incredible the
amount of support that is offered by people you know and
don't know. Networking, support and a sense of community
is all there - and it does help. I know of two people that
have pages, one for cancer and the other is a heart patient -
both have said the experience of just having that "spot"
where they can journalize how they feel and get
feedback is invaluable.
Healing thoughts to you.
sue
You must be a jumble of thoughts and emotions at the moment. Lean on those around you and be greedy with
the support they offer.
I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way for
a full and speedy recovery.
A site you may want to check out is
http://www.carepages.com/
You can set up your own carepage and it is incredible the
amount of support that is offered by people you know and
don't know. Networking, support and a sense of community
is all there - and it does help. I know of two people that
have pages, one for cancer and the other is a heart patient -
both have said the experience of just having that "spot"
where they can journalize how they feel and get
feedback is invaluable.
Healing thoughts to you.
sue
chelsealace
Alumni
Nadine,
My thoughts are with you but I want to tell you that four and a half years ago I had a negative mammogram but a positive ultrasound and went through surgery - but didn't have to have a mastectomy. Are they absolutely sure that you have to lose your breast? From experience I know that you will not be able to say the words, so let your nearest and dearest do it for you and tell people to pass the news on to anyone who they think cares. Get the surgery over as soon as possible - then you have two options, either be POSITIVE or be negative. Positive works, you just have to get on with life. Radiotherapy etc. makes you realise that however bad things are for you there are many more people around who are in a much worse situation than you, and you start to thank your lucky stars. Also, you will be amazed at the help you get from friends and you will be surprised just who comes out of the woodwork and proves real friendship and gives support. Please don't think that I am being flippant, it's not going to be easy and some days you won't even know who you are, never mind where you are. But it will get easier gradually and I wish you all the luck in the world.
You are welcome to e-mail me or ring me. I am in London 0207 538 8576 .
By the way, I am absolutely fine now and next August I pass the 5 year test. Whooppeeeeeee.
My thoughts are with you but I want to tell you that four and a half years ago I had a negative mammogram but a positive ultrasound and went through surgery - but didn't have to have a mastectomy. Are they absolutely sure that you have to lose your breast? From experience I know that you will not be able to say the words, so let your nearest and dearest do it for you and tell people to pass the news on to anyone who they think cares. Get the surgery over as soon as possible - then you have two options, either be POSITIVE or be negative. Positive works, you just have to get on with life. Radiotherapy etc. makes you realise that however bad things are for you there are many more people around who are in a much worse situation than you, and you start to thank your lucky stars. Also, you will be amazed at the help you get from friends and you will be surprised just who comes out of the woodwork and proves real friendship and gives support. Please don't think that I am being flippant, it's not going to be easy and some days you won't even know who you are, never mind where you are. But it will get easier gradually and I wish you all the luck in the world.
You are welcome to e-mail me or ring me. I am in London 0207 538 8576 .
By the way, I am absolutely fine now and next August I pass the 5 year test. Whooppeeeeeee.
sending you prayers and hope, strength and postive energy. know that my ex MIL is a 20+ year survivor and very happy and healthy now, still! :saint: hugs to you and yours, too, and keep in touch when you can; you know we're here for you!
OH My Goodness!
I seriously did not think so many would respond to this news, and I've been spent so much time on the telephone and am just exhausted from it all. Thank you everyone for your thoughts, prayers and information.
To answer a question or two. Yes, the surgeon is certain that the right breast will be removed. Due to the circumstances of that information I prefer not to put the particulars on a public forum, but am more than willing to express them via email and such.
My daughter is a nurse in Arizona, and since her mom has had some numb defining days, she has taken the reigns in trying to move through the information and to talk with the nurses, so at least I know someone is helping me understand the cryptic language I'm getting.
Now, a very real issue has come to light concerning insurance, or the lack of it. The surgical dept at Loma Linda has applied for Medi-Cal for my surgery. Again, this just tires me to think that I must wait for them to approve it in order to move forward. I was floored to find this out, and have spent hours on the phone trying to find information, as well as support.
All is being done, and I know I am on the right track, but I have no recourse but to sit and wait. I am sorry now that I closed my ebay store, as one can only watch so much television before one gets bored silly. My younger daughter has come from Virginia to help me out, and I am fortunate to have some wonderful girl friends close by that lend their ears to my frustrations and fears.
I was born an optimist. It is my nature, but I still have days of uncertainty and fear. I am now looking for a support group where I can voice the concerns and challenges I'm facing and maybe get some information that will actually get a real person on the phone instead of a message.
I am a very good advocate. I have a 25 year old autistic daughter who's story has gone all the way to the Supreme Court. But moving through the health system, while being sick and tired has just given this old gal a headache. I never would have thought I'd find myself in this situation.
So everyone, thank you so much. I will come back and give a full report as soon as I am able to.
Nadine
I seriously did not think so many would respond to this news, and I've been spent so much time on the telephone and am just exhausted from it all. Thank you everyone for your thoughts, prayers and information.
To answer a question or two. Yes, the surgeon is certain that the right breast will be removed. Due to the circumstances of that information I prefer not to put the particulars on a public forum, but am more than willing to express them via email and such.
My daughter is a nurse in Arizona, and since her mom has had some numb defining days, she has taken the reigns in trying to move through the information and to talk with the nurses, so at least I know someone is helping me understand the cryptic language I'm getting.
Now, a very real issue has come to light concerning insurance, or the lack of it. The surgical dept at Loma Linda has applied for Medi-Cal for my surgery. Again, this just tires me to think that I must wait for them to approve it in order to move forward. I was floored to find this out, and have spent hours on the phone trying to find information, as well as support.
All is being done, and I know I am on the right track, but I have no recourse but to sit and wait. I am sorry now that I closed my ebay store, as one can only watch so much television before one gets bored silly. My younger daughter has come from Virginia to help me out, and I am fortunate to have some wonderful girl friends close by that lend their ears to my frustrations and fears.
I was born an optimist. It is my nature, but I still have days of uncertainty and fear. I am now looking for a support group where I can voice the concerns and challenges I'm facing and maybe get some information that will actually get a real person on the phone instead of a message.
I am a very good advocate. I have a 25 year old autistic daughter who's story has gone all the way to the Supreme Court. But moving through the health system, while being sick and tired has just given this old gal a headache. I never would have thought I'd find myself in this situation.
So everyone, thank you so much. I will come back and give a full report as soon as I am able to.
Nadine
TangerineBoutique
VFG Member
Hi Nadine, my heart goes out to you. Stay brave and strong. Women are beating this every day. I will keep you in my prayers.
Melody
Melody
Nadine,
Thank you very much for the update on your situation. [I asked her how she was doing and she obliged by adding to her original post above...thank you Nadine!] I can't believe what you have had to go through, but I also am in awe of your gumption and perseverance through this past month. It sounds like you have a wonderful support team in your family and friends...I'm so glad.
As you face these uncertainties and the daily struggle you are going through--you definitely have my strongest positive thoughts.
Thank you very much for the update on your situation. [I asked her how she was doing and she obliged by adding to her original post above...thank you Nadine!] I can't believe what you have had to go through, but I also am in awe of your gumption and perseverance through this past month. It sounds like you have a wonderful support team in your family and friends...I'm so glad.
As you face these uncertainties and the daily struggle you are going through--you definitely have my strongest positive thoughts.
dorotheascloset
Registered Guest
So glad to hear that despite the struggles things appear to be moving forward for you.....and so sorry for the nightmare you have endured. I'll be thinking of you and am glad you were up to updating us here......
~Ang
~Ang
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BagDiva
Guest
(((Nadine))) I'm sorry l missed this original posting, as I was moving home...I'm soo sorry to hear of your troubles, but you sound such a strong woman, I'm sure that this will be a blip on your radar and you will come through this stronger!! I hope you manage to keep us up to date with your treatment and progress. You sound a a very brave ballsy woman..
have read this thread aghast. though for your troubles and for the US health system....I feel very ignorant, as I was under the impression that although medical assistance in the usa is based upon insurance schemes, that critical and major illness were treated through county hospitals and the like...I know l'm showing terrible ignorance here obviously so apologies.
that you dont or can't have the treatment first and pay later is almost unbelieveable.....the country of the free??? l'm horrified for you all there!!
have read this thread aghast. though for your troubles and for the US health system....I feel very ignorant, as I was under the impression that although medical assistance in the usa is based upon insurance schemes, that critical and major illness were treated through county hospitals and the like...I know l'm showing terrible ignorance here obviously so apologies.
that you dont or can't have the treatment first and pay later is almost unbelieveable.....the country of the free??? l'm horrified for you all there!!
